In matters of personal growth and relationships, I learned long ago that these were neither simple nor certain. Beware of the politician, minister, salesperson, or friend who starts a sentence with, “It’s really quite simple.” Unless it’s a game of Trivial Pursuit, they are probably promoting their opinion, not truth. Ambiguity, uncertainty, deliberation, and thoughtful timing are more often the realities of our lives.
Needless suffering
However, it’s the needless suffering that wears me down. It has none of the benefits of legitimate suffering. Needless suffering never stays focused. It escalates into self-pity or catastrophizing the situation, because it is based in fear.
Same-sex marriage
I believe Christian churches should be leading the way in promoting full acceptance of those marginalized in our culture. That was the example Jesus set. Instead, while denominations are splitting over whether or not gays and lesbians have a place in the church, many businesses are moving forward with non-discriminatory policies and same-sex partner benefits. Devoted Christians who are gay or lesbian not only have to deal with cultural stigma, but many have to do it without the support of their church.
Respectful curiosity
It’s hard to be respectfully curious and self-righteous at the same time. When I am respectfully curious, I often discover that the person whose life on the surface looks radically different from mine is usually dealing as well as they can with most of the same kinds of concerns I am.
The battle for Christmas
Now that Thanksgiving and Black Friday have come and gone, the Christmas season is in high gear. And so is the battle over Christmas. I have already received emails asking me to support causes combatting those pesky atheists and/or civil libertarians who want to take religion out of the holiday season. Christians are voicing their […]