“Sexual assault is terrible, but it doesn’t really affect me.” -Most Men We men find it pretty easy to distance ourselves from sexual violence. We assume it only affects those few women who talk about their experiences. We know sexual assault should not […]
Father as a sparring partner
I’m writing this on Father’s Day. I just spent a week with my two young adult children, ages 29 and 22, who live in Illinois. I am now visiting my 85 year-old father. I am experiencing multigenerational paternal whiplash. I think my father was able to semi-retire from fatherhood within a few months of his […]
Men as Mentors
Mark Twain once observed that “at the age of twelve a boy starts imitating a man, and he just goes on doing that for the rest of his life.” I suspect this is truer today than in Twain’s day. There is no time or event that signifies a boy’s entrance into manhood. Our culture provides […]